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Husband’s ex won’t stop calling him

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:00:37 GMT

Q. My husband and his ex share equal custody of their kids. However, she calls constantly, whether the kids are here or not. We have asked repeatedly, politely and firmly not to call except in cases of emergency, but today she called to tell my husband that William lost his first tooth. A tooth? He’s got tons of them! It’s driving me crazy. What’s good ex-etiquette?A. Sounds like you are expecting to have very little interaction with his ex and if mom and dad are co-parenting, that is completely unreasonable. They SHOULD be calling each other — everyone (including you) should be doing their best to follow the first rule of good ex etiquette, “Put the children first.”Personally, I think mom was acting appropriately by calling dad about their son losing his first tooth. I think she should have texted him, as well, and included a picture. Losing your first tooth is a big deal and definitely something that should be shared by co-parents.It also sounds a little like you may be dict...

Editorial: Treat landlords as allies to fight housing crisis

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:00:37 GMT

Boston has a housing problem: the supply is limited, the demand is great, and the rent is too damn high.A new report shows that Boston ranked dead last among the nation’s ten largest cities when it comes to available rental units.“The past year has unfortunately offered more of the all-too-familiar story of high prices, low vacancy rates, and systems and regulations that are keeping thousands of homeseekers – particularly non-White families – from accessing affordable rental housing and homeownership opportunities,” said Lee Pelton, CEO and president of the Boston Foundation, which released the report.The report also showed that Boston is last among the nation’s largest cities when it comes to rental availability.Anyone who’s tried to find an apartment in their price range here knows that all too well.As the city works toward a solution, however, it can’t afford to treat landlords as adversaries.Mayor Michelle Wu made another push for rent control last week, as the Heral...

Can puppy enjoy some Thanksgiving treats?

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:00:37 GMT

Dear Dr. John,With two kids in college and one of their friends coming home and with a new Labrador Retriever puppy in the house, what precautions do we need to take with Thanksgiving foods with the dog? He likes to get into all kinds of things and will eat just about anything! I have read that a little bit of turkey and stuffing can be safe to give to them. Are there other foods that might also be OK to give to the pup? I wonder if I also need to hide the garbage as he has knocked it over a few times already to get into things. J.F.Dear J.F.,Having a puppy makes it that more important to be careful and watchful of what they might ingest. Too many puppies and even adult dogs end up in emergency facilities during or just after Thanksgiving due to the ingestion of foods that have caused problems.One might see vomiting, diarrhea, choking on bones, pancreatitis, kidney issues, anemia, bloat, and more. Be sure to put the garbage in an inaccessible place so the smells of food scraps in th...

Ghosh: Arab states hold cards for two-state solution

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:00:37 GMT

That the recent meeting of Arab and Muslim nations in Riyadh was all talk and nothing more was surely a relief for President Joe Biden, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and, arguably, for the wider world. The last thing that the global economy needs is a repeat of the oil embargo that the Arab states imposed in 1973, to punish the US and some of its allies for having supported Israel during the Yom Kippur War.An appeal by Iran’s President Ebrahim Raisi to impose sanctions on Israel (and to arm Hamas) went unheeded. Rather than cutting off the flow of oil, the leaders from the Arab League and the Organization of Islamic Countries settled for letting off steam. They condemned Israel for the military assault on Gaza and demanded an immediate cease-fire.Saudi Arabia, the world’s largest producer, has signaled that it will not use its oil exports as leverage to achieve a cease-fire in Gaza. And the Arab states that have recently normalized relations with Israel — the United Arab Emirate...

Music bridges differences in ‘The Band’s Visit’

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:00:37 GMT

When a group of Egyptians are marooned in a small Israeli town, they need to find a connection that crosses borders: geographical and cultural. In “The Band’s Visit,” that connection — as it so often is — is music.“In this play, you are taking two groups of people, two very different groups, two groups from different cultures, religions, and countries,” actor Jared Troilo told the Herald. “You are putting them in the same room and they aren’t discussing politics. They aren’t discussing religion. They aren’t discussing where they differ. They are coming together through their relationships, and shared experiences, and most of all through music.”Troilo plays Itzik, one of the kind residents of the Israeli village who takes in some of the lost members of an Egyptian band of musicians. A language mix-up at a bus terminal has landed the band in a town too small to accommodate them so the residents must open their houses, and minds.Both a musical out of time and deeply needed today, “The ...

Thompson: Massachusetts workers need E-Verify

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:00:37 GMT

State lawmakers are trying to crack down on the unscrupulous employers who use cheap, illegal immigrant laborers to drive down Massachusetts workers’ wages.Their proposed bill, “An Act Protecting Massachusetts Workers” (H.1866/S.1169), would require businesses to use the federal government’s free E-Verify system to check whether newly hired employees are legally eligible to work in the United States.E-Verify is the most effective and humane way to deter illegal immigration and protect American workers. And it’s needed now more than ever, because Massachusetts’ migrant crisis is worsening by the day. Roughly 25,000 migrants have arrived in recent months — many of them illegally. Emergency shelters are so crowded that Gov. Healey is creating a waitlist.The humanitarian crisis extends well beyond homeless shelters. When employers fill job openings with illegal immigrants who’ll accept subpar wages and working conditions, it undercuts the ...

How to take a great holiday card photo with family

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:00:37 GMT

Greeting cards are among the first signs that the holiday season has arrived. Mailboxes are filled with cards and email inboxes have new messages popping up each day wishing others well. Many of these greetings feature family photos.A Shutterfly poll conducted by Ipsos in 2021 discovered that, while traditional holiday messages are by far the most popular missives at 63%, younger age groups show more interest in other types of cards, such as photo cards (between 34% and 38%  depending on age group). Forty-one percent of people polled prefer to receive photo cards. That means holiday well-wishers may want to brush up on their photography skills.Keep cards in the back of your mindWhile the Norman Rockwell-esque family tableau or a wintry Christmas scene is a go-to holiday card, any photo-worthy moment throughout the year can suffice. Keep a lookout for ideas while vacationing or enjoying time together as a family.Avoid busy printsStick to solid colors when posing for holiday photos; o...

Relearning office etiquette after working from home

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:00:37 GMT

Let’s face it. We all lost at least some of our office savvy during the pandemic.We were working in yoga pants, slippers, pajamas. We took the occasional — or daily — nap. We had nonstop access to the fridge and could turn off our cameras when we were eating (sometimes loudly).Now that most of us are back in the office at least part of the week, we’re realizing that some of our desk mates plum forgot how to act in public.Shouted cubicle conversations. Swearing. The absence of eye contact. Awkward small talk. Attire that’s way too casual, dirty dishes piled in the office sink.While most of us offered grace as we all returned, that time is over, said Juliet Mitchell, founder of the Life Etiquette Institute in St. Paul.We turned to career counselors, professors and etiquette pros to get some tips on office etiquette.Be personableRemember that a little eye contact, a quick hallway greeting or even a handshake go a long way toward re-establishing polite rapport.“B...

St. George, Utah lures history buffs, nature lovers & foodies

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:00:37 GMT

St. George, Utah sits at the intersection of national parks, mountains, deep lakes, outdoor recreation and Western history.With its mild climate, budding foodie culture and kicked back spirit, it’s a fun little city you’ve got to visit.Located in the Greater Zion Region (https://greaterzion.com), St. George serves as a perfect base camp. There’s lots of golf, endless hiking choices, and national and state parks galore.I headed to St. George recently, having zipped through on my way to other places in the past. This fast growing city has evolved over the years into a perfect centerpiece for the abundant sights of the area.I flew from Boston to St. George Airport with a quick stop in Salt Lake City. I could have opted to fly to Las Vegas and driven from there – they say the hour and a half drive features remarkable beauty and is an activity in itself. Renting a car here is a must; you’ll want to dash around to all the region has to offer (and parking was never an issue).The vibe of Th...

Seeking divorce when wife can’t be found

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:00:37 GMT

Q. My wife of five years moved out one day and didn’t tell me where she went. Her family is from Texas, so I have suspicions she is living there. We don’t have any children and the only property we own is the furniture in the apartment that we rent.Can I still get divorced if I don’t know where she is?A. You can get divorced in Massachusetts so long as the two of you lived here together for at least one year.  Or, if you didn’t live in Mass. for a full year, but the event which triggered the end of the marriage happened here, you can also get divorced here.  I would imagine that her leaving was the triggering event signifying the breakdown of the marriage from your perspective, so if you have not lived here for the year, you can list that as the event.You should try all options to locate her before filing your complaint for divorce.  I assume you have been unsuccessful reaching her by phone, but try again.  Also, if you know her family’s names and contact information, call them, sen...